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A thief in the house

January 11, 2017

I feel completely sick as I write this, but I think someone has been stealing from us. Child One was back briefly from art school over Christmas, and raised the alarm – some pieces of jewellery were missing.

At first, I was pretty sure they were just misplaced. And it’s still a distinct possibility – Child One’s room is an Aladdin’s cave of bits and bobs, as all girls’ rooms are. But I’ve searched nearly everywhere now, and there’s no sign. And I keep remembering more pieces of jewellery that I’ve given my lovely daughter, that aren’t there.

Some of them I gave to her and Child Two after my brush with death thanks to melanoma, including my very beautiful engagement ring from my marriage to their father. One of the other missing pieces was given to Child One by her uncle, and she was saving it to wear on her wedding day.

I’m still hoping against hope that these things will turn up. In the meantime, the list of suspects is not large. In fact, it’s very, very small. It’s quite ironic, given that I’m writing a whodunnit. In this case, the identity of the culprit is looking reasonably clear. It’s what on earth to do about it – and the horrible, horrible sick feeling of betrayal – that’s worrying me.

 

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  • Clare Taylor January 11, 2017 at 2:32 pm

    Awful. It’s not at all the same, but years ago I discovered that our cleaner had been stealing items of clothing from me. Not a lot, and she was not well off, but still. Not knowing what to do I did call the police, and they were very helpful in the advice that they gave, which included – given the relatively low retail value of the items – not taking it any further with them. I did ultimately get the items back, but they weren’t worth wearing by then (dry clean only items that had been put through the wash).

    It was the fact that they were taken in the first place that was the point for me; as gifts from my OH they had high emotional value. Overall not a good experience – but it certainly opened my eyes to the differences between lifestyles (hers and mine) and I still, now, feel sympathy to her in her situation. I did not, however, continue to employ her. Once bitten.

    • Dulwich Divorcee January 16, 2017 at 12:35 pm

      Sorry to hear you’ve had this horrible experience too. It’s rather creepy that she was wearing your clothes – a bit Single White Female if you remember that movie. I think there’s a confusion of feelings. I do feel great sympathy with the person and I know there was a lot of temptation – but to go from being tempted to betraying trust – and somehow expecting to get away with it – is the sticking point. I feel we have to act otherwise it will continue and other people’s precious mementoes will go too. Horrible.

  • Becky January 11, 2017 at 3:12 pm

    Oh no, I’m sorry to hear this. What a terrible betrayal of trust after welcoming someone into your home. Hope it gets sorted sweetheart x

    • Dulwich Divorcee January 16, 2017 at 12:32 pm

      Thanks, Becks. It’s not nice but we’ll get over it xx

  • Addy January 11, 2017 at 5:21 pm

    It’s awful when you have been robbed: even worse if you know who it is. Can imagine how you feel and the quandary about how best to tackle it. x

    • Dulwich Divorcee January 16, 2017 at 12:31 pm

      Thanks, Addy. I feel quite torn – but angry too. x

  • Lindy January 11, 2017 at 6:18 pm

    How sad! Hope you manage to recover the items

    • Dulwich Divorcee January 16, 2017 at 12:30 pm

      Thanks Lindy x

  • nappyvalleygirl January 13, 2017 at 3:17 pm

    How horrible. I am not sure what you should do — I guess maybe give the suspect a chance to give the items back before you go any further? But presumably they will deny it.

    • Dulwich Divorcee January 16, 2017 at 12:30 pm

      Unfortunately she’s got form! I won’t be seeing those things again – but they are just *things* and I keep telling myself that.