Bare essentials

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The very lovely people at essentials magazine have asked me to write about the most important woman in my life. They’re looking for real people to grace their magazine, which I think is a great idea.  I think we’re all pretty fed up with looking at stick-thin, air-brushed women, who are meant to inspire us, but whose lives, experiences and shapes are very far removed from our own.  Quite a lot of bloggers touch on this phenomenon.  The lovely Metropolitan Mum runs her ‘malnourished Mondays,’  featuring some of the cruel tricks the fashion industry plays on women. Notes from Lapland wrote this week about how horrified she was by women’s magazines, having been out of the UK for a while. And English Mum put her money where her mouth is with Figleaves, when she challenged their use of professional models in a range for women with ‘figure problems’ and ended up in a bikini. 

I worry about this particularly, as my impressionable daughters absolutely hoover up every word in mags like Closer and Now.  I love these mags myself every now and then, but I can see the ridiculous contradictions between the endless articles on celebrities who are too thin followed by pages on celebrities who are too fat, interspersed with yards of crash diets, then creamy full-fat recipes.  The subliminal message is – ‘woman, whatever you are doing, you are it wrong, life is a balancing act which you cannot pull off and what’s more it’s all your own fault.’  That’s not what I want my girls to pick up.  So I’m happy to get behind essentials on this.

The woman who has been a great inspiration to me is someone I now see rarely, as we live in different countries. We met in Brussels, when our children were small. I’m quiet, and happy to observe. My lovely friend L is a centre-stage, 24/7, traffic-stopping peroxide gal. When she describes her style, she says simply, ‘bright and tight’ – and that’s an understatement.

 

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(This is not a picture of me and L by the way, but some ladies sent over to grace my post by the
ever-resourceful essentials)

The lovely L erupted into our lives and showed me how to throw the grey clouds away and wear the silver lining as a belt around an incredibly skimpy frock. When we shopped together in Belgian supermarkets, she would liberate the live lobsters from their glass tanks (yes, they really do have them) and let them crawl around the floor ‘for a bit of exercise’, or chase the girls up and down the aisles with the confused crustaceans, making snapping noises as she ran. On a trip to the country, she showed the children how to get a herd of cows to lick your hand (they like the salt, apparently). With L, rules are for breaking, walls are for climbing over, chances are to be taken and fun MUST be had. 

Though she’s a designer clothes freak, I’ve seen her mop up a child’s tears on her finest Max Mara cashmere. When my girls were getting squeamish about eating lamb, she told them the meat was ox. ‘No-one cares about oxen,’ she said to me in an aside, and so it has proved. The girls used to ask for ox specially after that. She’s had her tough times. Her own divorce made mine look like a vicar’s tea party. And she once shocked me by saying she’d read a book called Feel the Fear – and Do It Anyway. I thought that was pretty much her modus operandi as it stood.

Everyone should have an L in their lives. She is a force of nature, whose spirit I endlessly admire. Thank you, L, for being you.

Calling all real women – whatever your size, shape, height, or age essentials magazine needs you!  If you would like to appear in a glossy womens lifestyle magazine this is your chance to shine!  Simply visit www.goodtoknow.co.uk/essentials for further details on how to enter, and follow the campaign on our Facebook and Twitter pages…we can’t wait to hear from you.
 

 

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8 Responses to “Bare essentials”

  1. exmoorjane Says:

    Good for Essentials. Though, to be fair, I do think quite a few mags are now waking up to the fact that we really REALLY don’t want to see (and,more to thepoint, we REALLY don’t want our children to see) anorexic looking models.
    And yes, everyone needs an L in their lives…
    Like the ox by the way but *sob* I DO like oxen….way more than stupid sheep actually…. ;)
    Great post.

    • Dulwich Divorcee Says:

      Do you really like oxen? They look like walking tables, I think. Much prefer sheep, they feel like living carpets. Chacun a son goat, I suppose :)

  2. Crystal Jigsaw Says:

    I very rarely buy women’s mags because they are usually full of crap. Being a rather voluptous woman myself, I get fed up of seeing stick thin models wearing ridiculously expensive designer clothes, looking about 20, then advertising moisturiser for the more mature woman again using a model who is about 20 yrs old, has no blemishes or wrinkles whatsoever. It’s all very unreal. And then there’s the celebs caught unawares, trying to live their “normal” lives as they walk with their family through town, or holiday in the caribbean with cellulite and skimpy bikinis. Live and let live I say.

    CJ xx

    • Dulwich Divorcee Says:

      I’m definitely with you on that, CJ. I find magazines very confusing these days and do actually feel a bit low after reading them. Better to pick them up in the hairdressers every now and then! xx

  3. Peggy @ Perfectly Happy Mum Says:

    You are lucky to have such a great and fun friend! Like you say everyone should have a L in their live. And I am sure she will cry reading this, I would :)

  4. Emma Says:

    I think it’s a great idea. My daughter is 7 and is already completely bombarded by unattainable images. I want her to enjoy her childhood and be happy, she shouldn’t even be giving a second thought to how she looks! Good for Bare Essentials!

    • Dulwich Divorcee Says:

      Glad you’re all for it. Isn’t it awful that it affects even girls of 7? I remember being horrified when my daughter came home at 9 worrying about her weight! All started by a girl in the class whose own mother was weight-obsessed. Horrifying. Anything we can do to counter it is good in my book

  5. Milla Says:

    I love L! Not sure about the oxen – we used to pretend everything was a variant on chicken – flying chicken or swimming chicken (tuna) etc. As for the photos, hmmm, have you seen facebook recently? I’ve a 13 year old son (how did THAT get here so quick!?!?) have you seen the way young girls present themselves? Shocking, sub-Nuts fodder.