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By: Single parenting and divorce: kids’ coaching « Organised Chaos

Single parenting and divorce: kids’ coaching « Organised Chaos — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 07:38:22 +0000

[...] The Dulwich Divorcee has blogged about Naomi Richards who apparently is the UK’s first kids coach. Apparently she is used to help when kid are coping with their parents’ separation or [...]

By: suburbia

suburbia — Sun, 31 Jan 2010 22:15:25 +0000

Thanks a lot, I will investigate

PS. Just read your post about the chattels, I will miss my Dualit toaster, not sure I can ’sneak’ it out!!!!!

By: Nicola

Nicola — Sat, 30 Jan 2010 14:01:26 +0000

wow – interesting thoughts. My ex and I have seen a child therapist a couple of times to ask for advice on how we handle situation, but as yet the boys haven’t seen a therapist. However the divorce and contentious issue of moving home has just begun so who knows what help we might need to keep our boys balanced? This has served as a very timely reminder. Thanks

By: Rosie Scribble

Rosie Scribble — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 20:32:18 +0000

I am fascinated by the idea of kids’ coaching. I hadn’t heard of it before but I notice you have posted a link above so I’ll check it out. Your post has come at just the right time. I’m keen to know what support is available for the children, not necessarily to access right now, but to know what options are there for the future, if needed.

Everything you say about therapy rings true. I would highly recommend it personally although it can be an incredibly painful and difficult process and yes, at times you come out feeling worse than you did when you went in. I think you get out what you put in, and with the right therapist and the right therapeutic relationship, a light at the end of a very long tunnel can eventually appear.

By: Dulwich Divorcee

Dulwich Divorcee — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 19:09:50 +0000

Sounds like your sister found a really good therapist. Mine was a nice lady but I can’t say I ever felt lighter afterwards …. yes, it was lovely to be asked on the show and I hope that the coaching idea might help others in a similar situation. Thanks for your good wishes last night, very much appreciated

By: Dulwich Divorcee

Dulwich Divorcee — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 19:08:10 +0000

Hi Suburbia, I’d be so glad if my post helped you! You could get in touch with Naomi via the website link, http://www.thekidscoach.org.uk. She might know of people in other areas. Or your GP might know of someone? Naomi is also on Twitter on @thekidscoach if you are a twitterer!

By: Dulwich Divorcee

Dulwich Divorcee — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 19:06:06 +0000

Well, the divorce wasn’t easy …..but the radio show was fun! Felt a bit like being under water with the big earphones on but Ingrid and Naomi were really nice, became like chatting with friends! I was terrified but it just shows you should say yes and go for it – sometimes anyway

By: Victoria

Victoria — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 18:55:05 +0000

I haven’t had a therapist, but my sister has. She said it was fantastic. She would go to the appointment with the world on her shoulders and come away so much lighter and released of so much stress. She found it such a great way to unload all her troubles onto someone completely neutral and disconnected from the family situation. Sounds like your show went really well and another great contact made to share amongst us bloggers.

By: rosiero

rosiero — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 18:21:16 +0000

If you can survive divorce AND a radio show interview, you can survive anything. Well done for getting through both! I would have been a nervous wreck, i am sure.

By: Dulwich Divorcee

Dulwich Divorcee — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 18:18:00 +0000

That is true, CJ, just not always an easy process – or maybe it’s just that I found it hard! xx