January 2, 2010

I’ve made a resolution …….not to make any resolutions.

The girls have been asking me for some time now what my resolutions will be. Theirs are:

Child One – to eat less chocolate (which worries me as she has suddenly become quite weight-conscious. She has finally realised there is a connection between eating large amounts of food and getting fat. Sounds strange but it’s amazing how long it takes a bright child to cotton on).

Child Two – do Pilates every Monday. This is, in theory, a great resolution – but Child Two is already doing ballet on Wednesdays and Thursdays, and ballroom dancing on Saturday. It makes me tired just writing that! There’s no way I’m going to force her to do Pilates on Monday, which is the only way she’d do it, even though it would be very good for me to do it too.

Both Child One and Child Two were justifiably fed up when I informed them, after intense questioning, that my New Year’s Resolution was not to make any resolutions. To them, it seems like complete party-pooperdom. I am not joining in the game. For me, it’s a short-cut out of guilt. Yes, I have made resolutions in the past – to control my own chocolate peanut intake (where does Child One get her love of choc from? It’s a total mystery), to be less slothful, even to be less divorced. But I have always broken them, and then felt bad. Surely it’s better to sidestep the feeling bad, by not setting myself up for the inevitable fall?

Ah, but that’s a very disappointing, old-money style of thinking, and rather downbeat for the girls. They are still at the age when staying up incredibly late is exciting in itself, even if the only thing that happens at midnight on New Year’s Eve is hearing the thud of fireworks they can’t see and catching a brief glimpse of people singing incomprehensible Scottish songs on BBC2 before their mother turns into a grumpy witch who drags them off to bed.

If I do have to make a resolution, if they really, really force me, I suppose it will be – to be happy. The simplest, and the hardest thing. I have already made a start, I feel, by not buying today’s Guardian. Its banner headline was ‘exploding the positive thinking myth’, with the serialisation of some book out to prove, no doubt, that there’s no escape from grimness. Well, no thank you very much. This is 2010, and I am NOT buying that.

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  • Heather January 2, 2010 at 9:03 am

    well i feel happier already knowing i shall never see that copy of the guardian nor buy the book it is promoting. See, this resolution stuff works 🙂

    • Dulwich Divorcee January 5, 2010 at 4:43 pm

      Yay! We’re making the world a better place already 🙂

  • Tara January 2, 2010 at 10:03 am

    I am totally with you on the no resolutions. No one ever keeps them so why set yourself up for failure? This year I’m mainly going to be the same as last year – just slightly better!

    • Dulwich Divorcee January 5, 2010 at 4:44 pm

      Aha, but could you be any better? I think not 🙂

  • Chic Mama January 2, 2010 at 1:40 pm

    Thanks for the warning I won’t be buying it either. Totally against my theories of positive thinking. Happy New Year to you. xxx

    • Dulwich Divorcee January 5, 2010 at 4:44 pm

      Absolutely! I won’t have my positive bubble burst, glad you feel the same xx

  • suburbia January 2, 2010 at 2:58 pm

    Totally with you on the happiness thing, will try hard too!

    • Dulwich Divorcee January 5, 2010 at 4:45 pm

      Who’d have thunk happiness would be such hard work? Maybe it gets easier … in fact I’m sure it does x

  • Geekymummy January 3, 2010 at 2:11 am

    Sounds like a good resolution. And that guardian headline reminds ne of why I livevin california. Snooty gloominess, who needs it. Happy 2010.

    • Dulwich Divorcee January 5, 2010 at 4:46 pm

      Snooty Gloominess sums it up brilliantly, G. And lucky you in California. I’m sitting here wearing three pairs of socks and I’m still cold!

  • Rosie Scribble January 3, 2010 at 6:17 am

    Sounds like you have a dancer in the family, and a sensible Child One as well. I am relieved to see you don’t make resolutions because neither do I. Perhaps we are in a club of two but at least it’s not just me.

    • Dulwich Divorcee January 5, 2010 at 4:46 pm

      At least there are two of us! I was worried it was just me. Lovely to have company as we sail on the good ship 2010x

  • rosiero January 3, 2010 at 8:41 am

    I always make a point of not making resolutions, but I have just weighed myself for the first time in ages and discovered I’ve morphed into a hippopotomus overnight. I’ve got chocolate peanutitis. The two christmas puddings have settled one on each hip and the tin of celebration chocs have nestled in my middle. I think I am going to have to lose two stones drastically, so am making a resolution not to not make resolutions!! Me miserum. Happy New Year btw.

    • Dulwich Divorcee January 5, 2010 at 4:48 pm

      That’s a lovely picture, Rosiero. Good job we don’t live near otherwise I’d be quite tempted to tuck in, you seem to be made of my favourite foodstuffs! Good luck with the not not making resolutions 🙂

  • englishmaninmoscow January 4, 2010 at 1:31 am

    I did make a new year resolution. To get fit, drink less and eat less.

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