Queen Nigella

June 18, 2013

Here’s a sentence I never thought I’d type: I feel so sorry for Nigella Lawson. She has seemed, for so long, to have had everything on the shopping list of stuff every woman is supposed to strive for. Not one, but apparently two, happy marriages, lovely children, fabulous house, brilliant career. Oh, and she’s beautiful, and accepted as such without even being stick thin. Admittedly, there have been blips. Her first husband died horribly of cancer. Her first name is not really so great. And her father was, and is, a Tory. But you can’t have everything. I, and probably every other woman in the country, have envied her for years.

And now it turns out she’s married to the kind of man who twists her nose and grabs her round the throat in public. What does he do in private? We all dread to think. Tweaking that lovely nose seems such a cruel and vile thing to do, not to mention excruciatingly painful. And I’m sure we’ve all had more than enough of the choke hold after watching The Fall.

It is shocking to see that a woman, even a successful, gorgeous and clever woman, can be humiliated and maltreated by her husband in public. Somehow we all kid ourselves that it’s something that happens to someone else, someone who doesn’t have a KitchenAid mixer and a cleavage to die for.

Apparently, Charles Saatchi doesn’t even like Nigella’s food. Poor woman, I’m sure the last thing she wants to cope with is becoming an icon in women’s struggle against domestic violence. But she really should leave him, for all our sakes. Apart from anything else, she has a teenage daughter. What kind of example is it if she puts up with his behaviour? And what if he tries to choke her daughter during a ‘playful tiff”? Heaven knows, it’s easy enough to feel like choking a teenager. Next time, the headlines could be even worse. Poor, poor Nigella. I shall be baking one of her cakes today in solidarity.

Nigella: she will rise above it, like her cakes

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  • English Mum June 18, 2013 at 11:02 am

    Totally agree. And I feel that getting a caution was certainly getting off lightly. I know it’s horrendous even talking about it, but I secretly hope she strikes out away from him. He doesn’t deserve her.

    • Dulwich Divorcee June 19, 2013 at 2:09 pm

      I hope so too. Imagine being married to Nigella and not liking her cooking! It’s unnatural x

  • janerowena June 19, 2013 at 2:06 pm

    There was a bit of an outcry against whoever took the photos, saying that they should have prevented it instead, but I am so glad that those photos were taken, and I think Nigella will be too, one day. What a horrible man. Ex worked for him briefly and said that he was brusque, exacting and no-one who worked for him was allowed a home life. I effectively became a single parent that year.

    • Dulwich Divorcee June 19, 2013 at 2:11 pm

      Difficult with the bystanders not intervening – my ex and I once saw a full-blown fight in the street, Mr X went over to remonstrate with the man, and the woman promptly turned on him instead! You never quite know what your’re getting involved in. And also, they are both famous – very hard to approach, unfortunately for Nigella. How interesting about Saatchi and your ex. He sounds awful.

  • janerowena June 19, 2013 at 2:19 pm

    I thought he was awful, but Ex was so pleased at first to be working for him that he would have done anything for him. The novelty soon wore off, thank heavens. I wonder if she was just another beautiful objet for him to collect.